Memorial Day is a national day of remembrance in which we honor those that have given that highest sacrifice that we may live in the land of the free. It is certainly worthy, deserving and just that we honor these brave heroes. While this is a day to honor specifically those that have died while serving, I believe it is also right and proper to honor those serving today, or that ever have, for they too put their lives on the line for us. After sharing these facts with the leadership students in my school the other day, I followed with a lesson we can all take from what Memorial Day teaches, and I would like to share it with all of you here today.
For the purposes of this meditation, it will be important to identify the specific principle that we are honoring when we honor the brave service men and women who have paid the ultimate price in the execution of their duty. I don’t believe that it is their death we honor. Do you? I don’t believe that it is even the fact that they are brave, able and willing to fight and die, though this is admirable. Yet there are other far less valiant people and professions that also require bravery and the willingness to stare death in the face; soldiers of fortune, throughout history and even today, live similar lives but serve simply the highest bidder, rather or not the ends of that benefactor are noble, worthy or even ethical. Certainly these do not warrant the same homage that we bestow upon the fallen soldier who dies while serving our country?
What is it then that causes us to take pause? What is the attribute that we admire and that we honor every Memorial Day? I believe it is that they have given themselves to selfless service to the rest of us; they have discovered, dedicated and even gave their lives to that which they were called to do, and specifically so that the rest of us may prosper.
But not everyone is called to be a warrior, just as not all are called to be teachers, doctors, firemen, police, fathers, mothers, entrepreneurs or any other thing. But some are called to each of these. I believe that the best way we honor the great men and women that gave their lives in defense of freedom is to exercise that freedom in our own selfless service to others. Each of us owes it to all of us to discover what calling God put in them, and to throw themselves into that calling with the same diligence and dedication to duty that the American fighting soldier, sailor, airman and marine puts into theirs! Each of us needs all of us, and all of us needs each of us; specifically to do what we are called to do!
When we fail to discover, train up and then share our calling to make our communities, society and country a better place for all of us, I believe we let these heroes down. As proud as I am of my own military service, I am equally proud of the work we do empowering lives through martial art and improving individuals, families and society one blackbelt at a time! But that is my calling and contribution in remembrance of the people that died to give me that right. What’s yours?
Shihan Stephen J. Del Castillo is the Founder and Master Instructor of Krav Maga Martial Arts in Tampa, Florida. He is a 7th Degree Blackbelt and BBSI Master Instructor, an MBA and a prior service Army Captain. His mission is empowering lives through martial arts, with the vision of improving individuals, families and societies one blackbelt at a time. Shihan especially enjoys sowing into young lives as he believes it is his calling to “raise up tomorrow’s leaders today”. Shihan Steve also teaches leadership to business and other organizations and is an active blogger and vlogger on subjects related to improving one’s leadership and life. Go to www.tampakravmaga.com for more info on Shihan and KMMA programs and/or join his leadership mastery community at https://www.facebook.com/meditationsonmastery/.
From Grand Master Stephen Del Castillo’s Meditations On Mastery To Be Released this month!
A past is like an opinion- we all have one. Some memories are pleasant and some are not. Some memories are victories and some are defeat. Some events built us and others almost broke us. Some of us got bitter and some of us got better. Some repress it, some regret it and some forget it. Some have moved on and some are still living there. The one commonality about everyone’s past is that your past got you where you are today. No matter how good, how bad, how happy or how sad, the sum total of events, experiences and lessons that form our past also work together to form the person that we are today. Rather we accept this as true or not, it still is. The key is to embrace whatever has happened as useful, to grow in and emulate the good and to learn from and diminish the curses of the past. By embracing the realities of our past, we can stand on the foundation built by it as we navigate our present to create our future. Psychologists tell us that our most formative years are from early childhood and through adolescence into early adulthood. There is no denying that the events of our young lives help create who we will be as adults. This is why the next section, on parenting, is so important; there is no denying that as parents we have a huge responsibility to raise a child that the world wants to live with, and a child that wants to live in the world. Having said this, however, I decided to start with our own past- that of you and I, the adult audience of this book. I have noticed in my years of teaching that many of us have not fully resolved issues of our own childhood. I have noticed this in others and I have noticed it in myself. I am working on each; that is my own issues and those of my students. It is from and because of this that I chose to write about this phenomenon in the first few pages of this book.
One of the most common pieces of baggage we often carry from childhood is that of not being good enough. This is where the man or woman in question was never good enough for mom or for dad and, rather they know it or rather only subconsciously, that feeling has followed him or her well into adult life. Even if the person does not realize this, they may subconsciously avoid situations, challenges and/or even opportunities because they don’t want to experience the agony of defeat. Truth is, with or without the excuse of an overly demanding parent, many people fail to realize their full potential for the fear of failure. It will be one of the enemies we will more thoroughly investigate and plan to defeat a little later. Suffice it now to say that fear of failure is insidious and will keep you from being the best you that you are meant to be!
Of course the opposite extreme holds some adults back as well. A child who knew no real standards, structure or discipline may also grow up unable to best negotiate the demands of adult life, especially as pertains to work and other adult responsibilities. In either, or any other, case the first step towards creating the future we want is to come to terms with our past. The relevance of knowing what happened and what it did to us is really only to accept that condition and then deal with it. We should do this in the quickest and most efficient manner possible. If you have it in you, quit cold turkey! That is, accept that the past is the past and the only value for the future is to learn from it. If this is not in you, you may need to get help. It is paramount you deal with your past effectively and sooner rather than later, one way or the other.
So far we have only explored the past of our childhood, by the way; of course there is also the past that occurred more recently. Was it betrayal by a friend or family member, financial failure, business mistakes, death of a loved one or some other catastrophe that is holding you back? Whatever it is, you may feel alone or that nobody else understands. Even more harmful, you may still be blaming others for whatever happened and wherever you are in your life. The first step towards any real and meaningful progress is to accept full and utter responsibility for your life from this moment forward! Hey, I said this book would be helpful, not easy. I am not preaching anything that I don’t practice. I have messed up relationships, screwed up business and dorked up finances as much as anyone I know. In every case, it was my fault. Others may have enticed, aided and abetted or even led but nobody is in charge of my action or my choices. Wrong or right, dark or bright, I have been where I have been because I allowed me to go there! The misguided reader would think this a self-bashing; it is not, but rather empowering! When we accept full responsibility for ALL of our actions and decisions, regardless of any circumstances or excuses, we are in control! Do it now if you never have before! Realize that you and you alone are the author of your story. It is empowering!
There are of course many philosophical, psychological and even theological arguments that we can make on this matter. As a young philosophy major in college I would have wanted to spend time on these; but this is a book about action. While these are my “meditations” on mastery, this book is really meant to be more of a blueprint for mastering your own life and helping others master theirs. Therefore, though we could argue nature versus nurture, destiny versus free will and even what Freud may say about the effects of our childhood on our current actions, these will not help us as much as this- do it now! Learn from the past, live in the present and create the future. These are the three key skills we will develop, or at least explore, in the first section of this book. The first step is to proclaim that you can and will do it. Take a moment to reflect upon the things of your past that you may still be carrying with you. Ask yourself these three key questions:
1. What am I carrying that is hurting me ? Make a conscious decision to drop these. Pray about it and release it. If it is not adding but subtracting, let it go!
2. What am I carrying that is helping me? It is also important to realize those past events that have contributed to who we are and/or are still serving us well and hold onto these. In the case of some, they may even be useful to pass on to our children.
3. What can I learn? The best and highest use of our past is to learn for the future. What mistakes have I made that I don’t want to make again? What specific lessons learned could I derive form these mistakes and apply to my future life. I can honestly tell you that I have invested and learned more from the hard earned lessons of my life than from my MBA. Go learn from yours too!
Self-esteem develops over time.
And if it's low, it can be raised. Here are things parents can do:
Help your child learn to do things. At every age, there are new things for kids to learn. Martial Arts is one of the best sports you can enroll your child because they will be learning all the time while having fun. Learning basics, the proper way to exercise, traditional martial arts kata and self defense are all skills that increase competence. Competence increased confidence and self esteem.
When coaching kids how to do things, show and help them at first. Then let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. Be sure your child has lots of opportunities to learn, try, and feel proud. Don't make new challenges too easy — or too hard. Holding pads too high for them to reach may seem funny but can also lead them to believe that they are not talented.
Praise your child, but do it wisely. Of course, it's good to praise kids. Your praise is a way to show that you are proud, too. But research shows that some ways of praising kids can actually backfire. At our martial arts school we use a technique called a praise sandwich. We praise effort, make a correction and the praise improvement after the child practices more.
Here's how to do it right:
Avoid over-praising. Praise that doesn't feel earned doesn't ring true. For example, telling a child he kicked almost straight up when he knows he didn't feels hollow and fake. It's better to say, "I know that was a tough class, but we all have off days. I'm proud of you for not giving up." Add a vote of confidence, "Tomorrow, you'll be back on your game."
Praise effort rather than fixed qualities. Avoid focusing praise on results such as doing the best in class or fixed qualities (such as being smart or athletic). This kind of praise can lead kids to avoid challenges that may threaten the good 'reputation' they get praised for most.
Instead, offer most of your praise for effort, progress, and attitude. For example: "You're working hard on that split," or, "You're getting better and better at these combinations," or, "I'm proud of you for practicing and going to classes — you've really stuck with it. This kind of praise encourages kids to put effort into things, work toward goals, and try. When kids do that, they are more likely to succeed.
Be a good role model. When you put effort into everyday tasks (like raking the leaves, making a meal, cleaning up the dishes, or washing the car), you're setting a good example. Your child learns to put effort into doing homework, cleaning up toys, or doing great stances.
Modeling the right attitude counts, too. If you train in martial arts along with your child, get excited about the classes (or at least without grumbling or complaining), you teach your child to do the same.
Ban harsh criticism. The messages kids hear about themselves from others easily translate into how they feel about themselves. Harsh words ("You're so lazy!") are harmful, not motivating. When kids absorb negative messages about themselves, they feel bad about themselves, and act accordingly.
Focus on strengths. Pay attention to what your child does well and enjoys. Make sure your child has opportunities to develop these strengths. Nurturing strengths is better than focusing on weaknesses if you want to help kids feel good about themselves and succeed. All students progress at different rates at different point in their martial arts journey. It’s not a belt race it’s all about becoming a black belt over time not “getting” a black belt
I read the following article this morning and had to share it with you. As you know, I consider the development of Leadership a key element of our mission of empowering lives through martial art. This excellent article on the power of leading by example is a good reminder for all of us that what we do speaks much louder than what we say.
Lieutenant Norman Dike froze in the face of fire. Dike led Easy Company, 506th PIR, 101st Airborne, during the wintery attack on the Nazi-occupied town of Foy, part of the overall Battle of the Bulge during World War II.
He was a replacement officer who’d allegedly been sent down from higher offices to receive some combat experience before he could be promoted. Behind his back, his men, the elite paratroopers later known as the Band of Brothers, dubbed him “Foxhole Norman”—a man who’d rather cower than fight.
During the attack on Foy, with enemy bullets slicing toward them, Dike wrongly positioned himself and his soldiers behind a haystack. There, he and his men sat as defenseless as hunted ducks. If Dike was ever going to achieve his objective, he needed to lead his men to surge forward and liberate the town. He needed to move! But Dike sat, petrified, panicked, already defeated.
From haystack to attack
From high on a hill, Captain Dick Winters, then battalion executive officer, surveyed the debacle. He spun on his heel and spotted the capable Lieutenant Ronald Speirs, leader of Dog Company, who stood poised in reserve. Winters ordered Speirs to run to the haystack, relieve Dike of his command, and lead the men to victory.
Lieutenant Ronald Speirs
Speirs sprinted forward, took control, and rallied the soldiers up from behind the haystack and onward. But before they could fully take the town and succeed, one more of Dike’s messes needed to be cleaned up.
Earlier, Dike had ordered one platoon to circle the town and see if they could flank the enemy. It might have sounded good at first, but it proved a lousy plan. The men were exposed to sniper fire during the run. Plus, without a radio, they couldn’t receive further orders. Sure enough, five E Company soldiers had taken bullets and gone down.
To countermand Dike’s initial order, Speirs ran alone straight through the town, chock full of weaponized Nazi soldiers. At first, miraculously, the Nazis held their fire, thinking perhaps he was a medic. Then the truth became clear. Shocked, their mouths hung open. Why was this one American officer running straight through their midst?! Didn’t he know he was now their number one target?
Shots rang out, right and left. Undaunted, unphased, and focused like a laser, Speirs ran straight to the lone platoon and set them straight. The truly astonishing thing, reported the men who were there, was that after Spiers ran through the highly dangerous town—he turned around and ran straight back to finish the job.
The power of example—for better or worse
When I think of the differences between lieutenants Dike and Spiers, I’m reminded of the adage that more is caught than taught. Overt instruction works to lead people, yet influence makes the strongest impact. The best leaders lead not only by instruction. They lead by example.
Lieutenant Dike wore the uniform of a leader. He certainly instructed his men to do things. But Speirs showed his men how to do things, and in doing so displayed true courage and empowered his men to successfully complete their objective. He kept cool under fire, and as much as he barked out the correct orders to keep moving forward, he effectively led his men by sheer example of his bravery.
Have you ever considered how your actions can speak louder than words? Whether it’s your management on the battlefield, in the workplace, in your volunteer organization, or within your family, your actions help set the tone, establish the mood, and create values and biases within the people you lead.
This realization can cause us to double check our work ethic, attitude, and management style, because both our good and bad habits rub off on others we care about.
Article by Michael Brotherton
And taken from Michael Hyatt Leadership Training
By Mark Silva, GetStudents.com
I started taking martial arts lessons with my dad in our living room when I was about 7 years old. We had just moved to Florida and I was starting at a new school midway through the year. I was probably the shortest kid in my class. Scrawny little arms, big wobbly head. I knew I was going to have to let time take care of most of those things, but I wanted to be good at karate ASAP. I had to get in shape. I needed to do some push-ups at the very least.
I met all my friends when my dad finally opened his first karate school in our new town. I had a slight advantage over the other kids because I was pretty close to the instructor. But then older, taller, and more athletic students started joining me in class. I knew I had to step my game up to be able to compete. I was inspired by watching them kick higher than me. I was inspired by hearing them yell louder than me. I knew I had to try harder. At the very least, I could do some push-ups.
After a few years of training and competing in tournaments it was time to reach my ultimate goal: BLACK BELT. At that point I was really good at doing my forms. I had all of the techniques memorized. I was growing and I was in pretty good shape. There was one thing hanging over my head...I knew I had to do 100 push-ups to complete my belt test.
I practiced every day. I pushed myself harder than ever in class. I did push-ups in my bedroom before school every morning. Fitness isn’t always fun, but it feels great and it makes you a better, healthier person. I wanted to be able to knock out those push-ups faster than anyone else. I reached my goal. I am a BLACK BELT.
I’m a grown man now, but I still have a lot of the same goals. This year I plan on eating healthier things I cook at home. I plan on running more, going on more walks, swimming in the ocean, staying active! Let’s set these goals together. If we keep an eye on each other we can make them all a reality this year. Good things come to those who sweat!
Focus is a skill we all begin to learn on day one of our martial arts classes. We quickly understand that having good focus will be super important to learning our forms, improving our techniques, and moving through belt ranks. Focus is the ability to concentrate without being distracted.
Parents: When watching classes you will see the kids standing at attention, sitting with their hands still or kneeling with their hand on their knees. The goal is to put kids in a position when learning so they can't be distracted by other kids moving, using their arms, squiggling around or being restless. Once the body is focused we teach the children to keep their eyes on the instructor. One of the cues we use is to yell out "Eyes on who?" the kids respond "Eyes on you!" Kids learn that their eyes must be on the person talking. This is taught in class and of course we remind the kids to do this at home and at school. Then we teach them to "focus their mind." The idea is that when distractions are at a minimum the children find it easier to concentrate.
I want you to focus on the future. I want you to focus on your goals. You become what you think about the most. If you think about all the negative things in your life or remarks you hear, you tend to notice them more and more. I want you to focus on positive thinking and the things you do well. This will come around and help you improve the things that need work.
My highest purpose and calling is raising up tomorrow's leaders today by helping children develop self confidence, self esteem, focus, discipline and, most importantly, to discover and develop their own personality and their own gifts- the ones with which they are destined to change with the world.
I have often contended that children today are over diagnosed and too often medicated. I would have been too, if the conditions were the same as they are today. I even fell into the cycle not too long ago, allowing some other people to convince me that my youngest son needed to be on drugs for his supposed ADHD. Thankfully, that didn't last long. He himself identified that the drugs were negatively affecting him and asked to come off of them. Instead, I now homeschool him and he is back very active in the dojo. He is excelling again, academically and personally, and on the path to bringing his inner greatness out.
Now please don't misread what I am sharing. I am not in any way condemning traditional public school education; it works for most kids and in fact my two older sons excelled there. I am also not saying that there are not conditions that legitamatly do require medication.
But here is what I AM saying:
It was an article shared by my KMMA Affiliate Yannick Grunan of Canada that inspired me to share this today. The article shares some important ideas from Harvard Psycologist Jerome Kagan about ADHD, depression and other "mental disorders".
You can read it here.
I thank God, my team and all my student family that I get to fulfill my purpose in life by helping kids. We show the child with "too much" energy how to focus that power for good, and the children with "too little" energy or motivation or confidence to develop these to become the best and highest version of themselves.
Most importantly we value and appreciate every child, identify their inner strengths and help them identify, appreciate and develop their own gifts for themselves. I could think of nothing on earth I'd rather do.
Grand Master Stephen Del Castillo
We asked kids in an online survey: "What should a coach care about most?" You might expect them to answer "to focus on winning." But "Put me in, coach!" is what most kids really want.
In fact, the majority didn't think winning was all that important. Only 7% of girls said coaches should be most concerned with winning, while about 18% of boys said so.
Here's what boys and girls value most in a coach:
64% said giving everyone a chance to play
27% said teaching new skills
9% said winning
Striving for excellence is a great goal, but when coaches and parents apply too much pressure, kids can get overly worried or push themselves too hard physically, leading to injuries. Some kids may even go on unhealthy diets to lose or gain weight to be better at their sport.
And when sports become too competitive, kids who have only average or below-average skills might spend too much time on the bench instead of learning new skills.
10th Degree master instructor Greg Silva says, "I have been a martial arts instructor for 46 years. I believe there are no better coaches than martial arts teachers." Martial Arts instructors know that the door to success open "in" not "out". That means the success to building an athlete who is well balanced yet understands that being in top shape and a top performer begins with the proper attitude, confidence, self esteem, sportsmanship and self control. This building from the "inside out" will prevent kids from being lazy, giving up, or quitting. The nature of martial arts with setting continuous goals is a key to it's success. And there is no bench to sit on. All kids learn, train and compete while playing the "game" in every class they take.
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Quitting. We quit jobs, we quit marriages, we walk out on friendships and sometimes we let people down when the going gets tough. Sometimes it is necessary, even the right thing to do. Our kids quit teams and music lessons, art classes and after school programs.
Sometimes it’s necessary, but sometimes they are bored or don’t like the coach or would just rather play video games at home. Deciding when to let your kids quit something, be it Gymboree, Little League or SAT prep, is a question that never goes away.
My kids have tried it all. I have driven them to sports, found drum teachers, glass blowing lessons, painting and ceramics classes. They have tried their hands at their school newspapers, student government, ESL tutoring and computer programming camp, though why that qualifies as camp, I am sure that I will never know. In the end, they did not commit to most of these activities, but at the same time, I never let them quit a single activity.
Our rule is simple: Try any activity that we have the resources to make possible. Go once, go even twice but if you commit, I told my kids, there will be no quitting. At the risk of overgeneralizing, I think our children have so many choices of ways to enrich their lives that sometimes kids quit an activity as an easy response to frustration or boredom.
I regret many of the things in life that I quit, not because I was enjoying them when I left, but because if I had stuck it out and reached any sort of competency, I might have found that elusive enjoyment. In reality, this meant that my kids had to stick with the team until the season ended or an art class until the sessions ended. There was no walking out on computer camp because it was dumb or quitting drums because we recognized a dearth of musical talent. Every activity was to be seen through to completion.
Why was I so tough on them? Why draw what might seem like an arbitrary line in the sand?
Constancy, commitment and loyalty are all values I hoped to instill in my sons. Learning to endure something even when it became boring or unpleasant, when the coach or teacher didn’t like my kid, or vice versa, seemed a lesson truly worth teaching. I thought that the first time I let them walk away from something just because at that moment it didn’t suit them was the last time I had any credibility about endurance or resilience because the refrain henceforth would have been, “but you let me quit….”
Over time, my kids learned they were never going to be allowed to quit things so they should be careful about what they committed themselves to, because the word commit was going to be taken literally. The result? Good things and bad. Perhaps they didn’t try things they might have, although we usually made clear up front that you could try something (say by going once or twice) but after they signed up we were done with discussions.
But we had bad days, really frustrating end-of-my-rope days. There were tantrums and miserable practices and screaming scenes where I reminded them that this was something they had said they wanted to do. The upside? They had long, enduring relationships with instructors, coaches and teammates who changed and enriched their lives. One high school son has been on the same soccer team for nine years. It is the stuff that childhood memories are made of.
I sound so confident now, but on a weekly and sometimes daily basis I was wracked by self-doubt and misgivings and even now am not sure if what I did was right. The one thing that I have observed is this: My college-age sons have true passions, things they study in school and activities they are involved in outside of the classroom.
Passions are not like dreams for most of us, we don’t wake up one morning and find they have miraculously come to us in the night. Parents often talk about helping kids find their passions. But passions do not always reveal themselves unbidden, as often they are a result of hard work and dedication, the joy that comes of doing something well.
My kids’ passions are the result of endless hours spent learning a subject or mastering a skill. In each case, it is something that in childhood they begged and pleaded with me to quit and in late adolescence they have told me how much they enjoy. I made them stick things out because mastery, even at a child’s level takes time and repetition.
Competence breeds confidence but success and accomplishment breed self-esteem and social well-being. One of my college kids, by his choice, still plays on a soccer team. Yet in a particular parenting low point, I pushed his 12-year-old self out of the car to make him play when the practices had ramped up and become far more difficult.
Martial Arts helps kids learn to stick with things and have fun along the way. Through a series of goal setting and learning new skills kids are constantly motivated, inspired and gain competence. I have personally trained 100 or more black belt kids. They all have gained skills like self esteem, confidence, courage, tenacity and perseverance. Parents tell me things like, "Of course the kids have highs and lows in training. Many have wanted to quit along the way. But that's okay. It's okay to want to quit." The real important things is to team up with the parents, child and instructor to make sure the child doesn't quit when that feeling come along.
From Grown and Flown
From The Well Armed Woman
There are some basic defensive tips every women should know and make part of their daily lives.
BE AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS
Self defense begins before you even know you need it. Always and in all situations, from going to the grocery store to finding your car in a dark parking lot - scan and be aware of what and who is around you and know where you are. Observe and think "what if?".
What if someone jumped out at you from behind that car? What would you do?
Part of what makes a women vulnerable to attack is the appearance of not paying attention, or appearing uncomfortable. Projecting a confident attentive presence can be a powerful deterrent. We are creatures of habit. It is far too easy to be lax in familiar surroundings and we lose the edge of really checking our surroundings and looking for anything unusual - especially in and around our own neighborhoods, homes, workplaces and cars. Many women are stalked and their habits watched over a period of time to take advantage of when their guard is likely down.
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
We as women, have powerful instincts - trust them and use them to your advantage. If something or someone does not "feel" safe - you are probably right and should take steps to avoid them. Do not concern yourself with what other's will think that it is a silly, paranoid thought. Listen to your gut and act accordingly.
Have your keys out and ready before starting for the parking lot or your front door. Don't wait until you get in your car to begin the typically long search for your keys in your purse. Don't organize your purchases or review your receipts in the car or do anything that keeps you from locking the doors, starting the engine and leaving immediately. Review your receipts before leaving the store and place your bags in the car quickly. Lock your doors and make sure your car windows are up immediately upon entering the car. Once you enter your home, shut the door and lock it immediately, even if it means making multiple trips to the car to unload your purchases. Take the time to lock the doors each trip. Know where you are going and be ready with keys or whatever you may need before you get there.
BE PREPARED FOR FLIGHT OR FIGHT
Being in the mindset that you will fight to protect yourself and knowing how you will do that ahead of time not only gives you greater confidence but increases your chance of successfully defending yourself. Escape is always the best option. Being aware and thinking defensively will help you to see "the possibilities" of flight or fight before anything happens. I would suggest that if you choose to carry a firearm, that you take an armed personal defense course and if you do not carry a firearm, a basic self defense course is highly recommended. These self-defense programs should include simulated assaults with a fully padded instructor in realistic rape and attack scenarios, to allow you to practice what you've learned.
Just as we teach our children to stay away from strangers, we need to practice what we teach. Keep your distance when walking past strangers and be observant and mentally prepared. If a car pulls up and needs assistance, keep a very safe distance if you choose to offer help - or simply keep moving. With the internet becoming one of the most common ways we meet new people, extreme caution should be used when giving out any personal information or addresses. Everyone and anyone can look and seem "safe" online. Trust no one.
PROTECTING YOURSELF AT HOME
Home invasion crimes are on the rise. The best way to prevent a home invasion is to always keep your doors and windows locked with effective locks and to simply never, ever open your door unless you either are certain you know who's on the other side or you can verify that they have a legitimate reason for being there. Many criminals will dress up as a repair man or even a police officer. You can call the company or the police station to verify before opening your door. In the event that an intruder breaks in while you're home, you should have a safe room in your house to which you can retreat. Such a room should be equipped with a strong door, deadbolt lock, phone (preferably cell phone), and a can of pepper spray, fire extinguisher or safely stored firearm.
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