The law of the process is one of John Maxwell's 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. It is one of his best works and one of many great leadership books that have become a part of the foundation of the Leadership program I teach at KMMA. Of all of the laws Dr. Maxwell puts forth in this book, however, none other has become as much a part of our daily training focus as this one. You see, the Law of the Process says that excellence happens daily, but not in a day. I find myself reminding students of this all the time. We live in a modern society in which people are used to getting things quick and easy. The all important attribute of patience is being lost. But, as we know, great things happen to people that work hard on a specific goal over periods of time.
The white belt (beginner) in the martial arts will not possibly be able to do what the blaclkbelt can. What that white belt sometimes forgets is that the blackbelt was a white belt once too; and, quite frankly, the only difference between the skill set of the two is that the Blackbelt chose to be bad at something long enough to eventually be great at it. Focus, dedication and perseverance are what made the blackbelt great- he or she did not start out that way. On the contrary, I have found over my 18 years empowering lives and producting blackbelts (since I opened the school in October of 2000) that it is often not the most gifted, talented or even excited that stayed to be great; it's just the ones who didn't quit.
This is such a great lesson and analogy for my students, and for all of us, in every area of our lives! You have to be willing to suck at something, to start before you know what you are doing; and then be focused, disciplined and patient. Over time, if you are doing your part (showing up to class in this martial arts analogy) and have a good mentor (the Sensei in this example), persist over time and never quit, you will succeed. For the martial artist, this denotes getting the blackbelt and then degrees thereof. In the rest of that Blackbelt's life this also referes to college and careers, familes and relationships, businesses and other ventures.
One last warning reference The Law of the Process: when students do quit before they get good, it is usually due to one of two errors. Either, on the one extreme, it gets hard and/or they get frustrated and think they aren't good at it or can't do it; or, on the other, they get bored and think they "know it" already, failing to grasp the reptition it takes to ever truly master anything. I issue this warning to my students of the martial arts as well as fellow businessmen, fathers, and leaders of any kind. Don't get frustrated, or bored, or ever give up. In every worthwhile endeavor it is the fundamentals, repeated regularly over time, that take us from being good to great.
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Lesson of The Week- Respect The Process
First, here is my weekly lesson on the Black Belt Excellence of the Week. I have been talking/teaching about RESPECT this month and this week's lesson is about Respecting the Law of The Process- to teach/learn respect and/or to create success in anything else!
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Back 2 School Series- The ABCs of Success
The next 6 weeks at KMMA are official Back 2 School Season! This means that we will be preparing all of our youth with the Attitude, Behaviors and Confidence for academic, social and sports success! The classes will also include the 20 ways to show respect to your teacher and the 5 steps to AVOID bullying.
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Saturday August 25th is Back 2 School Success Day at KMMA! This Free Community Event is from 1pm-2:30 and will include fun classes, free food, games, a street carnival, prizes and more! This event is Free and open to all KMMA students and guests plus ALL school aged community kids!
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Speaking of Back 2 School
We will be teaching PE at Lake Myrtle Elementary September 4-7!
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Besides bringing up humorous memories of Sho’Nuff asking Bruce Leroy the question, for those of us old and blessed enough to remember the 80’s martial arts comedy drama “The Last Dragon”, this question probably provokes thoughts of a martial arts nature for many of us when we hear it. Having studied martial arts for over 35 years and empowering lives through martial arts as my mission and livelihood for the last 18 of these, I certainly can relate to this, though I consider the path to mastery a lifelong journey I am still on. I think the attitude of constant and never ending improvement that keeps us growing and learning in various aspects of our physical, philosophical, business and leadership lives, is in fact one of the attributes that connote mastery. But this isn’t even what this particular meditation is about. For the purposes of this blog, I want to examine who is the master of our minds, and thus the master of our “real” lives. That is, what is the driving force?
Most of us believe that we are very conscious and deliberate about our lives; and some of us are. Certainly, to the degree that we understand the mastery premise I alluded to in the introduction above, we are probably varying degrees of this truth at different stages of our lives and, preferably, more and more deliberate about the results we produce as we evolve. Still, it’s important to understand that the thoughts, emotions and actions that create our “reality” aren’t necessarily conscious at all. In fact, our subconscious mind is probably the master. So much of what we think, feel and ultimately do is controlled by the subconscious mind- the master of our life.
Our subconscious mind is running programming that was written in our very early stages of life. Some if it can be good; certainly a big part of what we do at my dojos (martial arts academies) is to “program” children with self esteem, confidence, focus and discipline that will serve them well for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, much of what is written is not deliberate though. Many of us have many “limiting beliefs” that our subconscious created as a defense mechanism in childhood, or simply that we acquired from limiting beliefs passed on through word and deed by our parents and the rest of our childhood environment. These may be limiting beliefs around money, or accomplishment or relationships. These powerful subversive forces in the subconscious mind can cause us to act and react in ways that create realities we don’t want, even when we are consciously trying to do exactly the opposite.
I have personally spent a good deal of my adult life reprogramming negative subconscious beliefs that kept me from being the greatest version of myself. Some I am still working on. This brings me to second important point I want to share with you today. If the first one is that the subconscious mind is the Master because it is there that our emotions are created and then drive our actions, which then creates our reality; the second one is critically important as the first can create the impression that we are then powerless victims of what our programing is. Fortunately, this is not the case. Whereas the subconscious mind is the powerful and covert master of our impulses, the conscious mind is the Master Instructor! In his infinite wisdom God would of course not leave us in a negative situation without the equipment to change it. So, He gave us two super powers that are denied all the rest of creation!
First, human beings possess the power of choice. Unlike any other animal we, being created in God’s image, have the power to choose. We choose what we read, what we listen to and who we associate with. In these important choices the Master Instructor trains the mind, including the subconscious mind, and can actually reprogram ourselves to have more empowering thoughts, beliefs and emotions that drive greater actions that then create our realities. Thus, and this is the second God like power our creator bestowed us, we can create our realities by our choices. Our choices create our programming, which creates our thoughts and beliefs, which creates our emotions, which create our actions and reactions, which create our world.
Thus, while the subconscious mind is the master for so long as we allow it, the conscious mind, and the decisions we make via this Master Instructor, will dictate what the subconscious mind will create! So who’s really the master? I hope that this brief and humble explanation will help. If you happen to be one of my students, I look forward to talking more and deeper on the subject and, rather you are or are not, there are so many great books that examine the ideas I’ve shared deeper. Feel free to write me or comment and I’ll be happy to share some of my favorites.
Now, Master, let’s go out and Make this a magnificent day!
Shihan Stephen J. Del Castillo is the Founder and Master Instructor of Krav Maga Martial Arts in Tampa, Florida. He is a 7thDegree Blackbelt and BBSI Master Instructor, an MBA and a prior service Army Captain. His missionis empowering lives through martial arts, with the vision of improving individuals, families and societies one blackbelt at a time. Shihan especially enjoys sowing into young lives as he believes it is his calling to “raise up tomorrow’s leaders today”. Shihan Steve also teaches leadership to business and other organizations and is an active blogger and vlogger on subjects related to improving one’s leadership and life. Go to www.tampakravmaga.comfor more info on Shihan and KMMA programs and/or join his leadership mastery community at https://www.facebook.com/meditationsonmastery/.
Hello KMMA Students, friends, family and future students!
In my attempt and commitment to make training and fellowship super fun and supercreative at KMMA, I have put together a ten week schedule for what's going to happen. As I said in a previous email or video, I understand what we are competing against in the summertime, but I also know the importance of you not breaking your training.
If you are not yet a student, by the way, the summer is also an awesome time to get started! We'd love to have you in to try a free class or two and, if you love it as much as I think you will, our 6 week welcome program is only $99!
The summer is full of great training, themes and special events. Check it out below and email me at email@example.com if you have any questions!
Master Instructor, KMMA
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Striking Out Boredom!
Kicks & Tricks/KMMA Combatives 4 A Killer Workout
June 4 Buddy Day
June 9 Best Friend Buddy Bash!
Best Friend Buddy Bash!
Martial Arts Around The World
Hapkido, Karate, Muy Thai & Kung Fu/ Hapkido, Boxing & Muy Thai
KMMA Sports Summer Camp Lutz/Land O Lakes
June 16 Train With Dad
Train With Dad!
We ALL Scream 4 Ice Cream!
Kali Stick/Kali Blade
KMMA Sports Summer Camp Lutz/Land O Lakes
June 21 Very Involved Parent (VIP) Coaching Class
KMMA Community Punch & Lunch
Super Soaker Wars!
A:Def vs Bear Hugs / Kenpojitsu & Krav Maga Take-downs
B: Kickboxing 1&2 plus / My 80's Kickboxer workout!
June 27/28 Belt Testing
June 30 KMMA Family Graduation & Summer Party
My Mama Cooks Better Than Yo Mama
A: Def v chokes incl rear naked/ 3rd Party Protection
B: Kenpo Forms & Self Defense/ Multiple Attacker Drills
July 2 Buddy Day
July 4 Closed for Independence Day
July 5 Sensei Diego's Birthday
Spar Wars / Sparring Drills 4 Skills
July 13 Parents Night Out (theme to be determined by votes in classes)
July 14 Adam El Kasmi's Birthday
A. Universal 1 / Krav Knife Defense
B. Kickboxing 3&4 / Kali Offensive Knife
July 19 Very Involved Parent (VIP) Coaching Class
July 21 KMMA Mini-camp
MMA Training Camp / Gun Defense
KMMA Rank Camp With Grand Master D, Shihan Harley, Sensei Diego & Senpai Winston!
July 28 End of Summer Buddy Bash
July 30-Aug 4
KMMA Family Chili Competition
A. Krav Camp In A Class! B. Kickboxing Set Challenge!
July 31 Sensei Thomas Birthday
Aug 1 Shihan Harley Birthday
KMMA Family Bake-off
End of Summer Tournament Training & Competition Aug 6 Buddy Day
Aug 10 Back 2 School PNO
Memorial Day is a national day of remembrance in which we honor those that have given that highest sacrifice that we may live in the land of the free. It is certainly worthy, deserving and just that we honor these brave heroes. While this is a day to honor specifically those that have died while serving, I believe it is also right and proper to honor those serving today, or that ever have, for they too put their lives on the line for us. After sharing these facts with the leadership students in my school the other day, I followed with a lesson we can all take from what Memorial Day teaches, and I would like to share it with all of you here today.
For the purposes of this meditation, it will be important to identify the specific principle that we are honoring when we honor the brave service men and women who have paid the ultimate price in the execution of their duty. I don’t believe that it is their death we honor. Do you? I don’t believe that it is even the fact that they are brave, able and willing to fight and die, though this is admirable. Yet there are other far less valiant people and professions that also require bravery and the willingness to stare death in the face; soldiers of fortune, throughout history and even today, live similar lives but serve simply the highest bidder, rather or not the ends of that benefactor are noble, worthy or even ethical. Certainly these do not warrant the same homage that we bestow upon the fallen soldier who dies while serving our country?
What is it then that causes us to take pause? What is the attribute that we admire and that we honor every Memorial Day? I believe it is that they have given themselves to selfless service to the rest of us; they have discovered, dedicated and even gave their lives to that which they were called to do, and specifically so that the rest of us may prosper.
But not everyone is called to be a warrior, just as not all are called to be teachers, doctors, firemen, police, fathers, mothers, entrepreneurs or any other thing. But some are called to each of these. I believe that the best way we honor the great men and women that gave their lives in defense of freedom is to exercise that freedom in our own selfless service to others. Each of us owes it to all of us to discover what calling God put in them, and to throw themselves into that calling with the same diligence and dedication to duty that the American fighting soldier, sailor, airman and marine puts into theirs! Each of us needs all of us, and all of us needs each of us; specifically to do what we are called to do!
When we fail to discover, train up and then share our calling to make our communities, society and country a better place for all of us, I believe we let these heroes down. As proud as I am of my own military service, I am equally proud of the work we do empowering lives through martial art and improving individuals, families and society one blackbelt at a time! But that is my calling and contribution in remembrance of the people that died to give me that right. What’s yours?
Shihan Stephen J. Del Castillo is the Founder and Master Instructor of Krav Maga Martial Arts in Tampa, Florida. He is a 7th Degree Blackbelt and BBSI Master Instructor, an MBA and a prior service Army Captain. His mission is empowering lives through martial arts, with the vision of improving individuals, families and societies one blackbelt at a time. Shihan especially enjoys sowing into young lives as he believes it is his calling to “raise up tomorrow’s leaders today”. Shihan Steve also teaches leadership to business and other organizations and is an active blogger and vlogger on subjects related to improving one’s leadership and life. Go to www.tampakravmaga.com for more info on Shihan and KMMA programs and/or join his leadership mastery community at https://www.facebook.com/meditationsonmastery/.
From Grand Master Stephen Del Castillo’s Meditations On Mastery To Be Released this month!
A past is like an opinion- we all have one. Some memories are pleasant and some are not. Some memories are victories and some are defeat. Some events built us and others almost broke us. Some of us got bitter and some of us got better. Some repress it, some regret it and some forget it. Some have moved on and some are still living there. The one commonality about everyone’s past is that your past got you where you are today. No matter how good, how bad, how happy or how sad, the sum total of events, experiences and lessons that form our past also work together to form the person that we are today. Rather we accept this as true or not, it still is. The key is to embrace whatever has happened as useful, to grow in and emulate the good and to learn from and diminish the curses of the past. By embracing the realities of our past, we can stand on the foundation built by it as we navigate our present to create our future. Psychologists tell us that our most formative years are from early childhood and through adolescence into early adulthood. There is no denying that the events of our young lives help create who we will be as adults. This is why the next section, on parenting, is so important; there is no denying that as parents we have a huge responsibility to raise a child that the world wants to live with, and a child that wants to live in the world. Having said this, however, I decided to start with our own past- that of you and I, the adult audience of this book. I have noticed in my years of teaching that many of us have not fully resolved issues of our own childhood. I have noticed this in others and I have noticed it in myself. I am working on each; that is my own issues and those of my students. It is from and because of this that I chose to write about this phenomenon in the first few pages of this book.
One of the most common pieces of baggage we often carry from childhood is that of not being good enough. This is where the man or woman in question was never good enough for mom or for dad and, rather they know it or rather only subconsciously, that feeling has followed him or her well into adult life. Even if the person does not realize this, they may subconsciously avoid situations, challenges and/or even opportunities because they don’t want to experience the agony of defeat. Truth is, with or without the excuse of an overly demanding parent, many people fail to realize their full potential for the fear of failure. It will be one of the enemies we will more thoroughly investigate and plan to defeat a little later. Suffice it now to say that fear of failure is insidious and will keep you from being the best you that you are meant to be!
Of course the opposite extreme holds some adults back as well. A child who knew no real standards, structure or discipline may also grow up unable to best negotiate the demands of adult life, especially as pertains to work and other adult responsibilities. In either, or any other, case the first step towards creating the future we want is to come to terms with our past. The relevance of knowing what happened and what it did to us is really only to accept that condition and then deal with it. We should do this in the quickest and most efficient manner possible. If you have it in you, quit cold turkey! That is, accept that the past is the past and the only value for the future is to learn from it. If this is not in you, you may need to get help. It is paramount you deal with your past effectively and sooner rather than later, one way or the other.
So far we have only explored the past of our childhood, by the way; of course there is also the past that occurred more recently. Was it betrayal by a friend or family member, financial failure, business mistakes, death of a loved one or some other catastrophe that is holding you back? Whatever it is, you may feel alone or that nobody else understands. Even more harmful, you may still be blaming others for whatever happened and wherever you are in your life. The first step towards any real and meaningful progress is to accept full and utter responsibility for your life from this moment forward! Hey, I said this book would be helpful, not easy. I am not preaching anything that I don’t practice. I have messed up relationships, screwed up business and dorked up finances as much as anyone I know. In every case, it was my fault. Others may have enticed, aided and abetted or even led but nobody is in charge of my action or my choices. Wrong or right, dark or bright, I have been where I have been because I allowed me to go there! The misguided reader would think this a self-bashing; it is not, but rather empowering! When we accept full responsibility for ALL of our actions and decisions, regardless of any circumstances or excuses, we are in control! Do it now if you never have before! Realize that you and you alone are the author of your story. It is empowering!
There are of course many philosophical, psychological and even theological arguments that we can make on this matter. As a young philosophy major in college I would have wanted to spend time on these; but this is a book about action. While these are my “meditations” on mastery, this book is really meant to be more of a blueprint for mastering your own life and helping others master theirs. Therefore, though we could argue nature versus nurture, destiny versus free will and even what Freud may say about the effects of our childhood on our current actions, these will not help us as much as this- do it now! Learn from the past, live in the present and create the future. These are the three key skills we will develop, or at least explore, in the first section of this book. The first step is to proclaim that you can and will do it. Take a moment to reflect upon the things of your past that you may still be carrying with you. Ask yourself these three key questions:
1. What am I carrying that is hurting me ? Make a conscious decision to drop these. Pray about it and release it. If it is not adding but subtracting, let it go!
2. What am I carrying that is helping me? It is also important to realize those past events that have contributed to who we are and/or are still serving us well and hold onto these. In the case of some, they may even be useful to pass on to our children.
3. What can I learn? The best and highest use of our past is to learn for the future. What mistakes have I made that I don’t want to make again? What specific lessons learned could I derive form these mistakes and apply to my future life. I can honestly tell you that I have invested and learned more from the hard earned lessons of my life than from my MBA. Go learn from yours too!
Self-esteem develops over time.
And if it's low, it can be raised. Here are things parents can do:
Help your child learn to do things. At every age, there are new things for kids to learn. Martial Arts is one of the best sports you can enroll your child because they will be learning all the time while having fun. Learning basics, the proper way to exercise, traditional martial arts kata and self defense are all skills that increase competence. Competence increased confidence and self esteem.
When coaching kids how to do things, show and help them at first. Then let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. Be sure your child has lots of opportunities to learn, try, and feel proud. Don't make new challenges too easy — or too hard. Holding pads too high for them to reach may seem funny but can also lead them to believe that they are not talented.
Praise your child, but do it wisely. Of course, it's good to praise kids. Your praise is a way to show that you are proud, too. But research shows that some ways of praising kids can actually backfire. At our martial arts school we use a technique called a praise sandwich. We praise effort, make a correction and the praise improvement after the child practices more.
Here's how to do it right:
Avoid over-praising. Praise that doesn't feel earned doesn't ring true. For example, telling a child he kicked almost straight up when he knows he didn't feels hollow and fake. It's better to say, "I know that was a tough class, but we all have off days. I'm proud of you for not giving up." Add a vote of confidence, "Tomorrow, you'll be back on your game."
Praise effort rather than fixed qualities. Avoid focusing praise on results such as doing the best in class or fixed qualities (such as being smart or athletic). This kind of praise can lead kids to avoid challenges that may threaten the good 'reputation' they get praised for most.
Instead, offer most of your praise for effort, progress, and attitude. For example: "You're working hard on that split," or, "You're getting better and better at these combinations," or, "I'm proud of you for practicing and going to classes — you've really stuck with it. This kind of praise encourages kids to put effort into things, work toward goals, and try. When kids do that, they are more likely to succeed.
Be a good role model. When you put effort into everyday tasks (like raking the leaves, making a meal, cleaning up the dishes, or washing the car), you're setting a good example. Your child learns to put effort into doing homework, cleaning up toys, or doing great stances.
Modeling the right attitude counts, too. If you train in martial arts along with your child, get excited about the classes (or at least without grumbling or complaining), you teach your child to do the same.
Ban harsh criticism. The messages kids hear about themselves from others easily translate into how they feel about themselves. Harsh words ("You're so lazy!") are harmful, not motivating. When kids absorb negative messages about themselves, they feel bad about themselves, and act accordingly.
Focus on strengths. Pay attention to what your child does well and enjoys. Make sure your child has opportunities to develop these strengths. Nurturing strengths is better than focusing on weaknesses if you want to help kids feel good about themselves and succeed. All students progress at different rates at different point in their martial arts journey. It’s not a belt race it’s all about becoming a black belt over time not “getting” a black belt